10 years ago my biggest worries and goals were -
Never having a good boyfriend let alone a husband.
- I am now married to an amazing guy, who has everything on my wish list past and present.
Having everything in my closet be from some sort to big designer or brand.
- I've learned that having a bunch of expensive clothes and accessories made no sense in my situation. I don't live in an area or hang out with people who care. I don't have the want to spend money on that crap and much rather get a knock off version of the trend. However, I do get some fancy fance every now and then usually as gifts. But I don't stress out and go into debt over it. I focus on classic pieces and throw in a trendy piece here or there. Same with dressing my kids. Its all how you shop and carry yourself. I got that down!
Become a film maker.
- Can you believe that in one point in time I was totally into the indie film scene? Yeah I totally was, but I quickly found that I wanted a family and a someone permanent place to grow and raise a family. But I would totally direct a community musical in the future if given the chance! Haha!
Become a film maker.
- Can you believe that in one point in time I was totally into the indie film scene? Yeah I totally was, but I quickly found that I wanted a family and a someone permanent place to grow and raise a family. But I would totally direct a community musical in the future if given the chance! Haha!
Live in a tiny city apartment.
- I never lived in the city, but I have tried to find a way many times. People don't grasp this dream in Round Rock, Texas for the most part. They don't understand when words like "Long lines" "Crowded" "Loud" and "Crammed" or "Busy" actually excite me. I liked living in an apartment and did so as long as I could. Again something that may seem as a shock. I would hear about good investments and throwing money away to rent. But I wanted to experience different areas and I like the urban feel. I actually had a moment last year when looking for a house where I suddenly told Ben we should change it up and look for a condo downtown. We even found one that was awesome and small and super urban! But I couldn't find it in myself to cram my kids in a small space. Maybe when we retire!
- I never lived in the city, but I have tried to find a way many times. People don't grasp this dream in Round Rock, Texas for the most part. They don't understand when words like "Long lines" "Crowded" "Loud" and "Crammed" or "Busy" actually excite me. I liked living in an apartment and did so as long as I could. Again something that may seem as a shock. I would hear about good investments and throwing money away to rent. But I wanted to experience different areas and I like the urban feel. I actually had a moment last year when looking for a house where I suddenly told Ben we should change it up and look for a condo downtown. We even found one that was awesome and small and super urban! But I couldn't find it in myself to cram my kids in a small space. Maybe when we retire!
Being sure to give every friend an equal amount of time
- I spent a lot of time and money on friends over the years. Once I hit some major trials a few years back that ended and fast. I still support and love the friends I have. If they ever needed anything, I will do what I can. But no longer will I sacrifice so much for anyone who doesn't do the same. I don't see that thinking as selfish anymore. At a time where I needed some of those friends the most, they vanished. Which I don't take personal either. I've learned that friends are there to lift you up, not bring you down. So I let go of anyone who was constantly criticizing me or getting jealous of anything good happening to me (or bad...yeah weird)
Make it to every social event
- I have cut my calendar in half so to speak. Here is a typical situation that happened constantly each year. About 3 years ago my girls were invited to 3 birthday parties in one day, and one was 45 minutes away. I took them to all of them. Spent $60 in gifts, a whole tank of gas, and all of my energy. But you know what? A month later not one of those parents brought those kids to Michelle's party. The next year, same thing. I realized I would constantly break my back and bank to support everyone else's everything, but I wouldn't get half of that back. I now have a new way of planning though. I pick and choose now. And sadly its based on who has shown me and my family the most support. If you send me an invite to your baby shower but never sent me a card or came to visit with my last baby, I would just rather take that 20-30 bucks and take my girls out for some fro-yo and a movie to bond with them after a long week. Again this isn't personal or even revenge of any kind. I support and am genuinely happy for my friends and family. I have just learned its ok to say no once and awhile.
Learn to cook
- I love to cook and actually look forward to planning the Thanksgiving menu every year now. This year we are hosting at our place! Fun fun!
Looking forward to the time where all girls are nice to one another.
- I can't tell you how many times I've heard "What is this? High School?" when it comes to girls being mean. Truth is it never ends. WOMEN can be meaner than any teenage girl. In fact, this past year alone my feelings have been hurt twice by two women, both about 20 years older then I am. And I'm not talking something out of context. I mean actual behind my back or in my face put downs. I am at a place where I've just excepted gir-I mean- women will always have moments where they feel left out or picked on. It also has made it easier for me to focus on those who are there in my life to bring me up.
See Jennifer Lopez in concert.
- I saw Jennifer Lopez in concert in 2012. It was awesome!
When I turn 30 I'll be old and that's totally ok! I will work it!
- What the? Um 30 is not old. In fact that's the age where chances are (depending on what you've done leading up) you'll actually have more money, a stable job/home, you'll know your body and mind that will help you know how to take care of it (or not take care of it). But I'm still going to work it when I get there. For now "Like I'm totally loving my 20s!" (That's what I say to Ben when teasing him even though I'm 2 years away)
- I spent a lot of time and money on friends over the years. Once I hit some major trials a few years back that ended and fast. I still support and love the friends I have. If they ever needed anything, I will do what I can. But no longer will I sacrifice so much for anyone who doesn't do the same. I don't see that thinking as selfish anymore. At a time where I needed some of those friends the most, they vanished. Which I don't take personal either. I've learned that friends are there to lift you up, not bring you down. So I let go of anyone who was constantly criticizing me or getting jealous of anything good happening to me (or bad...yeah weird)
Make it to every social event
- I have cut my calendar in half so to speak. Here is a typical situation that happened constantly each year. About 3 years ago my girls were invited to 3 birthday parties in one day, and one was 45 minutes away. I took them to all of them. Spent $60 in gifts, a whole tank of gas, and all of my energy. But you know what? A month later not one of those parents brought those kids to Michelle's party. The next year, same thing. I realized I would constantly break my back and bank to support everyone else's everything, but I wouldn't get half of that back. I now have a new way of planning though. I pick and choose now. And sadly its based on who has shown me and my family the most support. If you send me an invite to your baby shower but never sent me a card or came to visit with my last baby, I would just rather take that 20-30 bucks and take my girls out for some fro-yo and a movie to bond with them after a long week. Again this isn't personal or even revenge of any kind. I support and am genuinely happy for my friends and family. I have just learned its ok to say no once and awhile.
Learn to cook
- I love to cook and actually look forward to planning the Thanksgiving menu every year now. This year we are hosting at our place! Fun fun!
Looking forward to the time where all girls are nice to one another.
- I can't tell you how many times I've heard "What is this? High School?" when it comes to girls being mean. Truth is it never ends. WOMEN can be meaner than any teenage girl. In fact, this past year alone my feelings have been hurt twice by two women, both about 20 years older then I am. And I'm not talking something out of context. I mean actual behind my back or in my face put downs. I am at a place where I've just excepted gir-I mean- women will always have moments where they feel left out or picked on. It also has made it easier for me to focus on those who are there in my life to bring me up.
See Jennifer Lopez in concert.
- I saw Jennifer Lopez in concert in 2012. It was awesome!
When I turn 30 I'll be old and that's totally ok! I will work it!
- What the? Um 30 is not old. In fact that's the age where chances are (depending on what you've done leading up) you'll actually have more money, a stable job/home, you'll know your body and mind that will help you know how to take care of it (or not take care of it). But I'm still going to work it when I get there. For now "Like I'm totally loving my 20s!" (That's what I say to Ben when teasing him even though I'm 2 years away)
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