When Ben and I started dating, he was 20. I reflected a lot about the years I've had with him so far. As a teen he was a very outgoing funny guy. He was always making an entrence and made things fun. He could also be obnoctious sometimes, must add that. At 16 in annoyed me to no end, but now I look back and laugh!
In his early 20s he had a lot of ambitions. He was extremely skinny. Had a great sense of humor and a love for comics and great taste in clothes.
Ten years later he has all of those traits enhanced, only now you can add great husband and father.
Ben has a lot of qualities that I love about him.
He is a hard worker. Growing up Ben wasn't involved in a lot of activities, he didn't feel he stood out academically nor did he feel he had many talents. His early years as an adult, he didn't see himself getting married, having a family and didn't plan for it either. He did however want to have a great job and saw himself working hard in whatever it was. I am so grateful that regardless of his background he never once has said he wants to quit his job or find an easy way out. There were days I would beg him to blow off work and he wouldn't (which that gives you have an insight on how I am). He has given us so much security knowing he won't just give up on a whim and try some crazy "get rich quick" scheme. Love that.
He is an amazing friend. Now, I'm a pretty talkative and confident girl, but it actually takes me a bit to really get comfortable around others. I still feel nervous approaching people and striking up a conversation. Ben is the ying to my yang in this case. He not only will approach a person in a room, he'll start a conversation AND keep it going. I have lost count on how many times we leave a gathering and he tells me "So and so is a cool person. We should invite them over for dinner!" If it weren't for him I probably wouldn't have as many friends as I do. He doesn't judge others, he sees the best in everyone and it doesn't matter what they are into. If you are a nice person and talk to Ben, chances are he considers you his new bff. My fault again for not following through and inviting people over as often as he proposes. My insecurities get in the way and its something I'm working on.
He is an amazing Dad. Ben has been blessed to have multiple father figures in his life. But one concern of mine when we first got together was the fact that he lived most of his life without a father in the home. Typically this can cause a disconnect or some sort of struggle when it comes time to raising your own kids. That has never been the case for Ben. He has taken on the role flawlessly and seeing the look in our kids faces when talking with or just seeing their day speaks in such volumes! He is encouraging, sensitive, and both strong and caring.
I have been very blessed to have a man in my life with these gifts. We truly have learned and grown together. I so look forward to continue seeing him accomplish more and more.
Happy 30th Birthday Ben!
Ten years later he has all of those traits enhanced, only now you can add great husband and father.
Ben has a lot of qualities that I love about him.
He is a hard worker. Growing up Ben wasn't involved in a lot of activities, he didn't feel he stood out academically nor did he feel he had many talents. His early years as an adult, he didn't see himself getting married, having a family and didn't plan for it either. He did however want to have a great job and saw himself working hard in whatever it was. I am so grateful that regardless of his background he never once has said he wants to quit his job or find an easy way out. There were days I would beg him to blow off work and he wouldn't (which that gives you have an insight on how I am). He has given us so much security knowing he won't just give up on a whim and try some crazy "get rich quick" scheme. Love that.
He is an amazing friend. Now, I'm a pretty talkative and confident girl, but it actually takes me a bit to really get comfortable around others. I still feel nervous approaching people and striking up a conversation. Ben is the ying to my yang in this case. He not only will approach a person in a room, he'll start a conversation AND keep it going. I have lost count on how many times we leave a gathering and he tells me "So and so is a cool person. We should invite them over for dinner!" If it weren't for him I probably wouldn't have as many friends as I do. He doesn't judge others, he sees the best in everyone and it doesn't matter what they are into. If you are a nice person and talk to Ben, chances are he considers you his new bff. My fault again for not following through and inviting people over as often as he proposes. My insecurities get in the way and its something I'm working on.
He is an amazing Dad. Ben has been blessed to have multiple father figures in his life. But one concern of mine when we first got together was the fact that he lived most of his life without a father in the home. Typically this can cause a disconnect or some sort of struggle when it comes time to raising your own kids. That has never been the case for Ben. He has taken on the role flawlessly and seeing the look in our kids faces when talking with or just seeing their day speaks in such volumes! He is encouraging, sensitive, and both strong and caring.
I have been very blessed to have a man in my life with these gifts. We truly have learned and grown together. I so look forward to continue seeing him accomplish more and more.
Happy 30th Birthday Ben!
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